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Master Facilitator Journal | Issue #0297, April 10, 2007

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Dear Friends,

I find it ironic sometimes that while I strongly believe in the
importance of facilitation and very much enjoy doing it, there are
certain elements of being a member of a group that I dislike. In fact,
I'm anything but a joiner. I tend to move away from any long term
involvement with groups. Why is this? Do any of you feel the same way?
I feel that this is an important thing to explore with us being group
leaders after all. And that's what we do in this week's article, "I
Hate Meetings," where we explore some of the pitfalls of meetings and
what to do about them. I look forward to your thoughts on this subject.



Have a great week!

Steve Davis
Publisher and Founder of FacilitatorU.com

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--I hate groups--
Know and beware of the pitfalls that can befall groups.
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I find it ironic sometimes that while I strongly believe in the
importance of facilitation and very much enjoy doing it, there are
certain elements of being a member of a group that I dislike. In fact,
I'm anything but a joiner. I tend to move away from any long term
involvement with groups. Why is this? Do any of you feel the same way?
I feel that this is an important thing to explore with us being group
leaders after all.

Group Shortcomings

There have been many documented reasons of late to dislike groups such
as:

None of us is as dumb as all of us. Groups tend to descend and cater to

the lowest common denominator. In other words, in trying to be
inclusive, group function falls to the level of the least capable
participant. English author and statesman T.B. Macaulay, put it this
way, “Groups of individuals are far more likely to err than
individuals. Groups give reign to instincts which individuals acting
alone are forced to keep in check.” Smart people just seem to leave
part of their judgment at the door when they go into a meeting.
(Kieffer, George David, The Strategy of Meetings, Simon and Shcuster,
1988.).

Group work is messy and complex. Because group process is more complex
than your typical one-on-one conversation, they require a lot more time

and effort to achieve a decision or a conclusion.

Groups are subject to group think. Most of us feel a need to be
accepted by the groups we affiliate with. Over time, our need and
desire to be accepted my overshadow our willingness to express
ourselves authentically. Or, unpopular ideas, opinions, or attitudes in

the eyes of the group culture may inadvertently marginalize or inhibit
your participation.

Group outcomes often descend to the lowest common denominator. When
subject to the collective attention of a group, we're more likely to
fixate on data, ideas, options in the interest of consensus than engage

in deeper more expansive exploration that we might perform on
individually. See this article citing these findings in several
studies.

Groups exert cultural influences. Every group has a culture of some
kind. By culture, I mean there are certain norms, stories, and senses
about what's acceptable, what isn't, what's right and what's wrong,
etc. As we evolve as human beings in cultures, we will offer our
greatest gifts to our communities by cultivating the ability to
transcend and include any culture of which we are part. From this
perspective, we will be more objective in what we bring to each group.

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Application
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Here are some tips for navigating the world of groups, many from which
you may want to make a swift exit!

Know your strengths and use them. Coming from this perspective, you
will gain and the group will benefit by your participation in it.
Remember the movie, "Ocean's 11?" iN In this film, 11 brilliant
thieves, all successful in their own right, came together to pull off
the heist of the century, then went back to their own lives. I'm not
suggesting you join a group for this purpose, but the principle is the
same. Joining a group only to take from it, or only to give to it, is a

non-sustainable proposition.

You're willing to leave the group at any time when mutual benefit
ceases to be realized. When your purpose with a group is complete, feel

free to move on. If you need any group to feel good about yourself,
support groups perhaps excluded, the group will be better off if you
get your needs met elsewhere.

Assure your groups are willing to hear and if appropriate, act, on
contrarion opinions and ideas. Any group that is stuck in dogmatic and
rigid thinking is by definition a stagnant entity that can't well
respond to the dynamics of life, much less group process. Unless you're

comfortable in a tight container such as this, you'll do well to move
on.

Group norms are fluid versus "institutionalized" making it possible to
incorporate and acknowledge necessary changes. These are the types of
groups I most avoid! I suppose they're helpful in some instances, but
for one fueled by creativity and innovation, I tend to feel stifled by
groups set on monitoring, setting, and following policy.

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Action
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What do you hate about groups? What do you do about it? Just reply to
this email and tell me what you've learned or need to learn.

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Resource
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Always Postpone Meetings With Time-Wasting Morons, by Scott Adams
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0836217586/masterfacilit-20

This is the first compilation of Dilbert comics, featuring Dilbert
comic strips from the late 80's. Most of the humor is at home -- away
from the office and features Dilbert with Dogbert. So, despite its
title, there is very little office satire. At 112 pages with typically
3 comic strips per page, there are plenty of laughs. The comics
featuring Phil the Ruler of Heck are hilarious. William McMichael
(Audubon, NJ, USA)

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