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"It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you place
the blame."
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Oscar
Wilde
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Shut up, Stop Whining and
Do Something
By Craig Kitch
www.craigkitch.com
We are a country full of whiners.
Everything that happens is someone else’s fault. Bad things happen that
you cannot prevent and the results are devastating. Life spins out of
control and all you can do is hope and pray that it might get better.
Other people are always wronging you and making you unhappy. We have
effectively moved from “In God We Trust” to “Woe Is Me”.
And we love it, don’t we? We love to commiserate with people and hear
now bad their lives are. It makes us feel in some way better about our
own life, but the pure drama is entertaining as well. America loves
whiners and complainers. How else can you explain the phenomenal success
created by tens of millions of viewers tuning into such wholesome and
uplifting television shows as Jerry Springer? You’ll see some guy on
there that does not understand why his wife is leaving him. It surely
can’t be because he is a drunk, abusive, un-bathed idiot that can’t hold
down a job. His problem is that she just doesn’t appreciate him. The
“Blame Game” is clearly America’s first and foremost reality show, and
we love it.
Obviously I have been writing with my tongue planted firmly in my cheek.
Most of us will never air our problems on TV and most of us clearly
don’t lead lives that would warrant attention from Jerry. But the
problem actually becomes a bit more personal and individual when you
really analyze it. You see, we have developed a “tolerance” in America
for people to pass the blame along for all the problems in their life.
That tolerance not only brings on social woes, such as frivolous law
suits, but it clearly tends to stifle creativity and motivation in the
individual. When you stop to focus on your problems, and blame others
for them, you end up staying firmly planted where you are….in the middle
of the problem.
STOP WHINING! Just do it. Make the decision to stop blaming everyone and
everything else in your life and take responsibility. Once you have done
that, you are poised to move forward into the life you want. I look back
on some of my most despairing times and realize that I clearly made it
all worse by not accepting responsibility for my life and making the
necessary changes in me to change things.
Whining does nothing but prolong the problem. It has been scientifically
proven that you can only focus on one thing at a time. Therefore, you
can choose to focus on the problem or you can focus on finding a
solution, but you cannot do both. Look, stuff happens. It just does.
That’s life! So you can choose to focus on the poop or you can choose to
focus on getting out of it. When I lose a piece of business that I
thought was in the bag, I can either get mad and look for someone to
blame, or I can take responsibility, learn from my mistakes and move on.
Which alternative seems better to you? Winston Churchill once said: “If
you are going through hell, keep going”.
Sounds like good advice to me.
For more information on how
you can reach your full potential and perform at your best on a daily
basis, visit
www.craigkitch.com
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