Have you heard the saying Possession is 9/10ths of the Law? Well here's my twist on that saying... Perception is 9/10ths of Reality.

Let me explain.

I've been coaching Mumpreneurs for well over three years now. The thing I've found is that no matter who I'm coaching or what business they are in there are definite similarities in all of us.

One of them is the belief that almost everybody else out there is doing better than we are.

We look at other mums and feel inadequate in our parenting skills. We see they have better relationships than we do, cleaner houses, more money and wonder how their children are such angels.

We look at other business owners and notice how quickly they build their business. How much money they are making and how many awards they win. We see their face in every newspaper and have a slight green tinge as to how wildly successful they must be. We are constantly comparing ourselves to others and coming up short in nearly every facet.

And yet here's another similarity...

We all look on the outside much more in control, successful, and 'with it' than we feel on the inside. So while we are looking at others in awe, we are looking only at our perception of their projected self. And they are doing the same thing back to us.

Now I believe there's a good side to all of this. When we have the belief that others are doing better than us, it can cause us to strive to do better. It can motivate us to go that little bit further and leave behind the complacency.

Unfortunately there is also a 'tipping point' where this can turn into a downward spiral. This is when the gap between where you are right now, and where you perceive others to be seems to be so great that you simply give up. Your self doubt takes over and you decide that you can never reach such a height so it's easier not to try.

So what I want for you is to be able to look at others as a source of inspiration rather than a point of comparison. What I want for you is to understand that what you see is usually not reality but a mixture of your perception and their projection. Things are never quite as they seem!