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"I Believe in You!"
A message of Hope, stories from the
road.
By Bob Perks
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Hello, my friend!
Not just another day..another gift...unwrap it
carefully
it was sent with love.
Bob and Marianne
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Today's Message:
"Love a little more"
by Bob Perks "I love you!" The words just hung there in the air suspended for the moment, drifting, waiting for the echo..."I love
you, too!"
I thought about it and wondered if there really needs be an echo, a reply of the same.
"Why do we tell someone "I love you?" I wondered. Oh, the obvious point is to let someone know you care about them.
But do we say it so that we can hear it back? If we say
those
words they certainly aren't taken or given lightly. There
is power
behind them, woven in between them and laced with tone's
of
commitment. But do we also say them because we, too need
reassurance? Are we really saying it this way; "I love
you!
Do you love me?"
I believe the best things in life come to us without expectations. It reminds me of the tradition of sending greeting
cards.
"Should I send a birthday card to Uncle Joe?" "Did you get one from him for your birthday? "No." "Well, I wouldn't send one to him." Or..."John we got a card from the Phillips for Christmas. Did we send them one?"
"No. I don't remember getting one from them last year. Remember we decided to send cards only to those who send us
one?"
How many things do you do that you label as "giving" when in reality you are expecting a return for your gesture?
Have you ever given something anonymously? I'm not suggesting that it's wrong to say "I love you" because you long to hear it. I just wondered how many times we say it
without expectations.
So I experimented with it. The last several times when my wife said it to me, I didn't reply with the same words. I would say
"thanks." In
some cases I replied with a hug. Other times I said or did
nothing. The
words hung in mid air. Last night I sighed. That got me
into trouble. The
sigh seemed to give a different signal.
For me, hearing the words echo back doesn't mean that much. It seems too mechanical. Like "Thank you" and "You're
welcome." It's polite and
proper, but expected.
So here's what I've come up with. Touch a little more. A hand on a shoulder, a gentle touch on a chin. If you are sitting near each other, play "footsies" gently
bumping, nudging
your loved one's foot. In this new society of keeping our
distance, not
invading one's space for fear of misunderstanding the
gesture, the
human spirit longs for touch.
Smile a little more. In a passing glance, return a soft, gentle smile. Practice it in the mirror and you'll see how your eyes are
involved in this
expression of love. They seem to sparkle and brighten as
they tell the
person you bring joy to my life.
Offer to do a little more. "Can I get you something?" "Let me get that for you." "No, sit I'll get the phone."
Watch the expression and body language on that person when you do this. They suddenly feel special, like royalty.
Call a little more. For no reason at all. "Just needed to hear your voice." "I thought about you and thought I'd give you a call." You
won't see it, but
when they hang up they walk a little taller, the smile
will linger for a while.
Write a little more. Don't send a card. Don't send an email. Take a piece of paper, an envelope and write a quick note to someone
you love. Here in
America it costs 39 cents. Do you realize how valuable
that investment is?
In these times what can you buy for 39 cents that could
possibly be as
valuable as a hand written note. Oh, yes. Send it even if
you live in the same household.
Be quiet together a little more. Sitting in silence with someone you love creates an energy in that space that is breathtaking and
unforgettable.
Listen to the sound of love, two hearts beating in one
continuous rhythm,
sending pulsating waves of immeasurable force into the
world.
Now try saying "I love you" without expectation. If you are doing all of these things those words will not need an echo. They will not
hang in mid air and
die in sadness because you didn't hear them back. They
will be absorbed
by the one they were intended for and they will sigh, not
in frustration or
confusion, but in satisfaction of knowing it is
so.
You actually do this already. When you pray, you say "I love you, God." You don't wait for a deep sounding voice in reply. "This is
God...I love you, too!"
Why? Because it is understood. We know He loves us not because we hear it, but because we experience it, feel it, and know
it.
Our true love for Him is not in the words we say, but in the way we live. When we love each other we love God.
I write for you as an expression of love although we have never met. If you know that, take a deep breath and sigh. "I believe in You!" Bob Perks
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you keep my name and contact information
attached so that new readers can find their way
here. Use of this
story for commercial use is prohibited without
direct permission
from the author.
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"I wish you enough!"
Bob Bob Perks is a professional speaker, author and vocalist. Member National Speakers Association. Visit http://www.BobPerks.com Visit Bob's story site: http://www.IWishYouEnough.com Sign up to receive Bob's free stories sent three times weekly. "I wish you enough!" written by Bob Perks (c) 2001 "I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright. I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive. I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess. I wish you enough "Hello's" to get you through the final "Goodbye." |
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