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Subject: "Loving Still" - January27, 2006



"I Believe in You!"
A message of Hope, stories from the road.
By Bob Perks
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Hello, my friend!
It is a glorious day here and tomorrow looks even brighter. 
I do hope you see your day the same way.
 
Today's story reminds me to choose my words
carefully when trying to comfort someone struggling with life issues.
 
This conversation brought to mind the number of times people
had stories to share with us during my son Keith's cancer battle.
 
"I know someone who had a similar cancer...they died...oh, but
I sure Keith will be fine."
 
Or, "Marianne has breast cancer?  Oh, that's such a deadly disease."
 
They all meant well.
 
I made a similar mistake when speaking with a woman who lost her husband
a few years ago.  For some, life goes on and love finds its way into new
relationships.
 
Others find themselves..."Loving still."
 
Make it a great weekend ...
Love always and all ways,
Bob and Marianne
 
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Thanks, my friend!
Bob and Marianne
  
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Today's Message:
 
"Loving Still"
by Bob Perks

She sat in the corner of the room looking out the window.  The sun washed over her face
gently reflecting off specks of silver and white in her hair.  Her profile against white curtains
looked like she was posing for a portrait.

I stood quietly a distance away not wanting to disturb her moment of peace.  She had been
struggling for some time now after the death of her spouse.

"So, how long do you plan on standing there?" she said without looking my way.

She caught me off guard.  I didn't think she even knew I was there.

"If only I had a camera, it would make a wonderful portrait," I said.

She turned, looked at me and said, "A picture of loneliness."

I took a deep breath and said, "You don't have to be lonely."

She turned and looked out the window once more.

"I love watching the birds.  They seem so happy," she said.

"That's because they are with other birds.  Although they compete for the food you supply
they seem to enjoy being together.  I have a holly bush in my yard.  It fills up every
morning with sparrows.  I watch them fly out to the bird feeders and return to their perch's
somewhere in the bush.  Their chirping sounds like a church choir warming up before the
service."

She smiled and said, "I wish I were a bird so I could just fly away."

I walked toward her and stood next to the chair where she was seated.

"How many years has it been?" I asked.

"Too many," she replied.

"You still miss him, don't you."

She sighed and said, "It's like the sun doesn't shine on my day."

Then I said something stupid.  It was one of those things you say when trying to comfort
someone.  One of those things that come out of your mouth and as if time suddenly moved in
slow motion, you can see them hanging there in mid air.  You wish you could take them back.
You wish you hadn't said it at all.

"Will you ever love again?"

There was silence for what seemed eternity.  She never moved as she continued looking out
the window.

I let the moment go and stood there quietly staring at the floor.

I was hoping she hadn't heard me.

Then turning her head toward me, I could see a small tear running down her face.

"Will I ever love again?"

Her eyes moved slowly back and forth as if she was searching her soul for just the right answer.

Then she said softly, "I am loving, still."

I moved to a chair nearby and we sat there watching the birds.

How foolish of me to ask such a question.  When one loves so deeply and for so long, love never ends. 

They are "Loving Still."

"I believe in You!"
Bob Perks
Bob@BobPerks.com
 
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copying I ask that you keep my name and contact information
attached so that new readers can find their way here. Use of this
story for commercial use is prohibited without direct permission
from the author.
 
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"I wish you enough!"
Bob
 
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"I wish you enough!"
written by Bob Perks (c) 2001
 
"I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough "Hello's" to get you through the final "Goodbye."








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