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Dear Friends, May this find you all well and happy. This is your personal issue of Clarity. Be sure to add the address @zinester.com to your address book, so that your email account will not filter it out. ============================================= You can now view video clips with Robert on Youtube at: http://www.holisticharmony.com/youtube/index.asp or http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy ============================================= Also you can find playlists where you can view whole seminars as a series of video clips at http://www.youtube.com/profile_play_list?user=robertenajemy You will find subscription and removal procedures at the end of the email. ============================================= Share this issue with someone who might benefit from it. ============================================= You can still join our Holistic Harmony Life Coach Training - Stage I. Which has just started this 3 weeks ago. Find all the details at: http://HolisticHarmony.com/introholisticcoach.asp ============================================= Testimonial by trainees: II have grown so much through this process. I am truly grateful to you. I can't wait to see my Certificate!!! I recently received all of the materials for Stage Two. Thank you so much for them. I can't wait to start reading and listening. In Gratitude and Joy, Peggy USA ============================================= The Life Coach Training helped me very much in understanding other people as well as myself much better. Our experiences from the past as well as emotions that we are not really conscious about result in our words and actions. But if we are not aware of why we react in a certain way then how can we change that behaviour? Because of the training my communication has improved because I can feel "behind" the words and understand the underlying emotions and reasons. Thus I can give better advice in my job as a coach. Robert's training is ten times worth more than what it costs. He is extremely generous. Take the course! You can only win! Alexandra Bass, Germany ============================================= OUR LOVE PARTNERS' NEEDS ============================================= Mark what you believe your spouse or love partner needs more of from you. (Or the members of the opposite sex in general) 1. Love (or greater expression of it) 2. Respect 3. Understanding (of what?) 4. To accept them as they are 5. Acknowledgement and affirmation 6. Trust 7. Freedom to think and function as they believe and in accordance with their needs 8. A peaceful environment 9. Affection and erotic contact 10. Support and encouragement in the cultivation of their abilities and powers 11. To be listened to them without hearing criticizing or advice 12. To be satisfied with them 13. To inspire them 14. To be just with them - for us to behave toward them as we would like them to behave toward us 15. To agree with their beliefs and ideals or at least accept and respect them 16. T? express our true feelings, needs and beliefs 17. Freedom of movement 18. To keep our agreements 19. To be sexually devoted to only them 20. To have patience with their weaknesses 21. To be supported during difficult moments 22. To express gratitude for all that they offer us 23. To acknowledge their positive qualities 24. To be alone when they do not feel well or when they have the need 25. To get out more often 26. To get more rest 27. To receive more help in the chores 28. To be given greater attention when they speak 29. To do more things together 30. For greater responsibility on our part 31. To be on time 32. To receive more help and cooperation in keeping order and cleanliness 33. To behave as they like in our home and elsewhere 34. For us to take care of ourselves Other___________________________________ Now place a special mark on the other's needs that you consider to be the least satisfied by you in this relationship. You can also ask the other to fill out the questionnaire so that you know exactly how he/she feels. ============================================= POSSIBLE LESSONS Then consider possible lessons: 1. To feel okay even if your loved one's need is not satisfied because his / her needs are unreasonable. 2. To free yourself from any obstacles that keep you from satisfying your loved one's needs and go ahead and satisfy his/ her needs with love. 3. To communicate more effectively about this through I-messages and active listening 4. To find practical solutions so you both can be happy 5. Some combination of the above Once you have made your discoveries, move forward toward a more harmonious relationship. ============================================= WHAT WE CAN DO ============================================= Given this situation, we can do the following to create a more loving and growth-conducive relationship: 1. Take full responsibility for our reality. 2. Free the other from any responsibility for our reality. 3. Perceive the other as our teacher and learn through both his or her positive and negative attributes. Learn to emulate the positive, and to understand, accept and deal with the negative. 4. See what lessons we need to learn through the other's behaviors that annoy us. We have dedicated a future chapter to this process. 5. Learn to communicate more effectively with the other through I-messages and active listening 6. Understand the other's: a. Needs (such as: affection, love, approval, freedom, respect, unity) b. Beliefs (such as: I am in danger, I am not worthy, My freedom is in danger) c. Reactions 7. Do not speak to others about our loved one, but only directly to him or her (except, of course, a counselor). 8. Participate in groups for the purpose of self-knowledge and creating interpersonal harmony. 9. See a professional counselor together. 10. Participate in each other's activities. 11. Express love and admiration such as: a. Gratitude for help and service b. Acknowledgment of what the other does c. Recognition of the other's abilities, qualities and virtues d. Love and appreciation 12. Meet regularly for communication on all levels. This is best done on a weekly basis. 13. Visualize the other in light and send love on a daily basis. From the book "Relationships of Conscious Love" http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/ebookscb/index.asp by Robert Elias Najemy ============================================= View video clips of Robert on YouTube. ============================================= You can now view many video clips from Robert's self-knowledge seminar, which has helped many thousands of people. You can now enjoy many parts of it at: http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy If you find these video clips beneficial, you can do the following. 1. Go to http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy and sign up so that you are informed of each new clip as it is uploaded. 2. Rate and comment on these clips on youtube so that others will be encouraged to view them. 3. Share them with friends. ============================================= Podcasts by Robert ============================================= Podcasts by Robert Najemy with complimentary lectures and relaxation techniques are now available for you on the internet. Some of the titles now available for your use are: · Introduction · The Importance of self-acceptance · Positive Projection for Self-Acceptance · Celestine Prophecy No. 1 · Roles we Play · Guided Light Self-healing Technique · Dealing with People's Negativity You can listen to on your computer or download and make them into a CD or place them on your ipod and benefit from them where ever you are. Share this address with friends and relatives. http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=258335006 Be sure to subscribe so that you are informed of new podcasts. ============================================= Support materials from Holistic Harmony ============================================= 1. Free Audio clips with Lectures and relaxation techniques: http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/audioclips/index.asp 2. Free Video clips with Lectures and relaxation techniques: http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/youtube/index.asp 3. 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Check out our free program for those seeking to create relationships or improve themselves and their relationships at: http://www.holisticharmony.com/relationships/index.asp 133. Free audio files for dealing with pain. http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/healing/index.asp ============================================= CLARITY The Psychology of Happiness Concepts for a Happier more Harmonious life Published every 7th and 21st of the month November 7, 2007 Circulation 3000 Issue # 137 All articles are by Robert Elias Najemy, unless stated otherwise Forward or Print and share this with those who will benefit. To subscribe or discontinue use the following addresses: Subscription URL: http://www.zinester.com/cgi/gsps.cgi?from=na_sub&topic=41848 Unsubscription URL: http://www.zinester.com/cgi/gsps.cgi?from=na_unsub&topic=41848 If you have any problem subscribing or unsubscribing, let us know at ren@holisticharmony.com May you be well and happy |
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