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Dear Friends, May this find you all well and happy. This is your personal issue of Clarity. Be sure to add the address @zinester.com to your address book, so that your email account will not filter it out. ============================================= You can now view video clips with Robert on Youtube at: http://www.holisticharmony.com/youtube/index.asp or http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy ============================================= You will find subscription and removal procedures at the end of the email. ============================================= Share this issue with someone who might benefit from it. ============================================= ON THE SPIRITUAL PATH ============================================= Sex, "erotas" and love are our most powerful drives. They are simultaneously the sources of our greatest happiness and our deepest pain. How can we balance these energies in our lives, put them into perspective and experience their benefits without their disadvantages? (We use the Greek word "erotas" to describe the state of "romantic love" or falling in love or being infatuated with another person, so that we are excited and stimulated on all levels by our contact with or even thoughts about that being.) Man is body, personality and soul. We might say that sex is an attraction limited to the physical level. Erotas is the attraction between one personality and another, and Love is the attraction between two spirits. Each evolving level includes the previous just as the soul includes, but is not limited by, the personality and body. Love includes, but is not limited by, erotas and sex. There is much confusion about these three subjects. We receive different, sometimes conflicting messages from church, parents, friends, psychologists, doctors, TV the cinema and the media in general. Who can we believe? How can we construct a personal belief? Some of the various opinions we hear floating around are: 1. Sex is a sin except for the purpose of creating children. 2. Sex is made pure by the sacrament of marriage. 3. Sex outside of marriage is a sin. 4. Sex is okay with anyone as long as there is a feeling of «love.» 5. Sex is a sacred action of union between two conscious beings. 6. Sexual activity is good for one's health and should be carried on as late in life as possible. 7. The sexual act wastes precious vital energy that could have been transmuted into higher forms of creative activity or self-knowledge. 8. Sexual activity should be freely expressed with anyone whom one feels - even members of the same sex. 9. One should never suppress one's sexual urges - it could harm one physically and psychologically. 10. Men should be allowed to engage in extra-marital relationships, but not women. 11. Both men and women should be allowed to engage in extra-marital relationships. 12. Sexual attraction is a trap that causes us to lose our clarity and reason. 13. Erotas is a sacred joy in life worth chasing, no matter what it may cost on other levels. 14. One's success and manhood (womanhood) is measured by one's sexual and erotic achievements. Otherwise there is something wrong with that person. 15. Real love does not exist. 16. Real love encompasses both sexual and erotic energies. 17. Spiritual growth is impossible as long as an individual is focused on his sexual and erotic energies. 18. Sexual energy can be transmuted into spiritual energy if one knows how. Perhaps you could add another ten beliefs or so. What do you believe? Who is right and who is wrong? What is the truth in all of this? How can one formulate a personal philosophy concerning this powerful and yet confusing aspect of human existence? I cannot personally claim to have any answers for society in general, but after much experience and thought on the subject, I have come up with a personal philosophy that satisfies me at present and may be useful to you in working out your own. The thoughts I will express here are personal and do not represent any particular system or established philosophy, except for the fact that I have obviously been affected by all the philosophies I have studied, teachers I have met, and relationships I have experienced. IT IS NOT A MATTER OF RIGHT OR WRONG First of all, I do not believe this is a question of who is right and who is wrong. All these statements are correct and incorrect depending on the path on which an individual finds him or herself in this journey toward self-knowledge or self-actualization. Initially, we will need to let go of the pride and guilt associated with the concepts of right and wrong, good and sinful. That which is «right» and «good» is that which helps us to proceed on our path toward unity with others and with the Divine. That which is «bad» and «sinful» is that which creates an alienation between ourselves and others, or between ourselves and the Divine within. Thus, sexual activity for one person may be a harmonizing, unifying factor in his or her physical and psychological life, yet for another, it might be a drain on his or her spiritual energies or focus. One is no better than the other, just as the college student is no better than the elementary school child. Both are good and equally divine in their inner nature. We need to be honest with ourselves, look deeply into our goals and motives and determine whether at the present time sex and/or erotas are helping us move toward or away from love. 169 For the majority of us, sex and erotas still play a basic part in harmonizing energies and bringing us closer together. The basic problem is that the means have become the goals. Sex and erotas have become the gods of modern media. Most advertisements are passed into our subconscious through our sexual awareness. Sex and erotas exist for the purpose of gradually learning to love. For this reason, it is necessary for most of us at some time in our lives to experience these forms of contact, but we have forgotten what love really means. We confuse it with attachment, affection, desire, lust, identification, worry, anxiety, fear, pride, control and various other emotions. BODY - PERSONALITY - SOUL Where there is love, erotas or sex play a natural role in manifesting the already existing spiritual unity now at the level of the personality and the body. Whenever there is sex or erotas without love, there is little real unity, usually many drawbacks and eventual problems. All three are attempts to erase a sense of separation, loneliness, or emptiness. All three express the need for the soul to reunite with the others who are simply parts of its own true being - the universal spirit. But sex and erotas alone can seldom, if ever, bring about a total sense of unity if they do not coexist with that pure and lasting love to unite us rather than only our bodies and personalities. What we often call love is really sexual attraction or erotas; the attraction between two personalities. This is evident by the fact that if the other personality starts to change or our interest changes, our love withers, transforming into disappointment and sometimes anger, hurt, bitterness and resentment. Real love is unconditional and does not lead to negative emotions. Our needs and attachments create our pain, not our love. What we usually call love is usually an attraction based on our need for security, sensual pleasure or ego gratification. When we enter into relationships on the basis of needs, we expect the other to create within us a feeling we do not have, such as security, happiness, or self-acceptance or self-worth. Seldom, if ever, can someone else arouse this feeling within us if we do not have it within our selves. These are inner feelings that are the result of experience and inner work, and not objects that can be transferred from one person to another. The result is that we become disillusioned because the other is not giving us what we need, what we want. We fail to realize that he or she simply cannot do so. From the book "Relationships of Conscious Love" http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/ebookscb/index.asp by Robert Elias Najemy Next time we will continue will the following: EXTRA-MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS THE PROBLEM OF ENERGY DRAIN LEVELS OF INTERCHANGE OUR POLARITY THE TRANSMUTATION OF SEXUAL ENERGY ONE UNIVERSAL SPIRIT THE ROLE OF AFFECTION SEX AND AGE ============================================= View video clips of Robert on YouTube. ============================================= You can now view many video clips from Robert's self-knowledge seminar, which has helped many thousands of people. You can now enjoy many parts of it at: http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy If you find these video clips beneficial, you can do the following. 1. Go to http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy and sign up so that you are informed of each new clip as it is uploaded. 2. Rate and comment on these clips on youtube so that others will be encouraged to view them. 3. Share them with friends. ============================================= Podcasts by Robert ============================================= Podcasts by Robert Najemy with complimentary lectures and relaxation techniques are now available for you on the internet. Some of the titles now available for your use are: · Introduction · The Importance of self-acceptance · Positive Projection for Self-Acceptance · Celestine Prophecy No. 1 · Roles we Play · Guided Light Self-healing Technique · Dealing with People's Negativity You can listen to on your computer or download and make them into a CD or place them on your ipod and benefit from them where ever you are. Share this address with friends and relatives. http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=258335006 Be sure to subscribe so that you are informed of new podcasts. ============================================= Support materials from Holistic Harmony ============================================= 1. 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