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Dear Friends, May this find you all well and happy. This is your personal issue of Clarity. We welcome all of our new members are receiving Clarity for the first time. We would love to hear from you. Express your needs and preferences. Be sure to check out all of the gifts that we have for you on our site. http://www.HolisticHarmony.com If you have not signed up for this ezine, then please asked to be removed with an email to webmaster@holisticharmony.com ============================================= You will find subscription and removal procedures at the end of the email. ============================================= Share this issue with someone who might benefit from it. ============================================= You can find archives of older issues at http://archives.zinester.com/41848 ============================================= Learn how to Help Yourself & Others with «Energy Psychology» with Robert Elias Najemy while enjoying Greece, August 10 to 16th. Learn EFT, TAT, BSFF, WHEE, The Sedona Method, Ho'oponopono as well as Law of Attraction techniques from the "Secret", from the author of 24 books and a Life Coach with 35 years of experience who has worked with over 20,000 people. We are surrounded by olive trees and are a ten minute drive from the sea. Enjoy vegetarian meals some from our gardens. Relax, rejuvenate and learn Energy Psychology for yourself and others. Learn the details at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/seminars ============================================= RIDING OUR EMOTIONS TO FREEDOM Part 5 Those of you who have not read the previous parts can find them at http://www.holisticharmony.com/archives/capsules/a_86.asp ============================================= By Robert Elias Najemy The need to free ourselves from needs and attachments We are controlled by our needs. Until we realize our true spiritual nature all of our positive and negative emotions are based on one simple factor - whether our needs are being fulfilled or not. We are talking here about all types of needs from the most basic physical and material needs, to psychological, mental and spiritual needs. We experience security, self-worth, freedom and happiness when our extensive list of needs is being fulfilled. Even when only one of those is not being fulfilled, we feel a wide variety of unpleasant emotions. We fear that we will not be able to fulfill our needs or attachments and fear that we will not be secure, worthy, free or happy if we do not. Each attachment makes us a slave of that need and we experience great anxiety, fear and even panic when we consider that we might not be able to manifest what we need. This might mean the love of a specific person, better health, more money or specific possessions, a better professional or social position or success at some endeavor or perhaps the survival of a loved one or our own physical survival. The more needs and attachments we, have the more likely we are to feel unhappy about the past, present or future. Of course, what we usually call the present is actually the past, because if our emotions are about what we had or did not have one minute ago, that is still the past. We are also most likely to fear not having what we need in the future, and this will cause anxiety. We need to remember that even what is going to happen a minute from now is about the future. Thus worry, anxiety and fear are almost always about what might or might not happen for us or to us and / or our loved ones. It is all about needs, attachments and dependencies. These are the cause of all fear, pain, suffering, guilt, anxiety, worry, anger, hate, shame and self-rejection. One might, then, assume as many yogis and religious persons of the past that the only solution is to renounce the world and its pleasures and responsibilities. This is one viable path, but not the one suitable for most of us in the 22nd century. We need to see what other options we have for dealing with the pain that is created by our needs, attachments, and dependencies. We have two possible paths that are not exclusive. They can be combined. We have mentioned earlier that one way to create happiness is to become more efficient in creating what we desire. We are happy when we have what we want and unhappy when we do not. If we are able to manifest what we want, then we are happy. One problem here is that we do not focus on what we have but on what we want but do not have. If we have satisfied nine of ten needs, we seldom think, "Oh how happy I am! I have nine of ten things that I need!" We usually feel unhappy because we do not have the tenth and are unable to enjoy the nine that we do have. We tend to focus on what we do not have, and experience pain, rather than happiness and gratitude for all that we have, which is probably more than 90% of the people on the planet if we have the money to buy this book and the time and security to read it. Our emotions are energy fields that become motivating forces that push us towards action and change, as we seek to create pleasant emotions and avoid unpleasant ones. Our emotions are a basic evolutionary force that needs to be honored and not suppressed or rejected. They are there to give us a motive for change. The law of attraction The law of attraction is the effective way to create what we need to be happy. This law determines what we attract from the universe. We create our reality with our beliefs and emotions. The universe is basically a mirror that reflects to us the many aspects of our being but here we will focus on our emotions and beliefs as energies that attract analogous realities. When we feel unhappy about what we do not have, we create a reality in which we attract more of what causes our unhappiness. When we feel unhappy, we attract realities that further that unhappiness. When we feel happy and grateful for all that we have, we attract more of whatever makes us happy and grateful. The more we experience love, the more what we love comes into our lives. Unpleasant emotions are motivating forces that can push us towards realizing our spiritual potential to manifest on the material level that which we feel motivated to create. In an ideal situation, however, our needs and desires will evolve as we mature emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It would be silly to desire toys and dolls at our age, yet many of us are still locked into adolescent needs as well as needs that society has programmed into us, rather than needs that actually come from within as we evolve. Creating what we feel will make us happy When we feel unhappy about what we do not have or because we have not succeeded to create what we want, then we need to employ the following process of creation. 1. Focus on all that we already have for which we can feel love and gratitude. Generate feelings of love and gratitude bringing to mind all that we have. 2. Now we bring to mind that which we want to manifest and visualize that we already have it. It is now in our lives and we are feeling so happy and grateful that we now have what we want. (All of this is visualized as in the present.) 3. Now we envisage ourselves enjoying our new life with all that we want, perceiving how we now feel different and perhaps act differently. 4. We are again grateful for all that we have - now including what we newly have (which is what we are seeking to manifest.) In this way we discover the unlimited creative power within us. This however, requires that we learn to first feel gratitude for and happiness with what we already have. We create a state of unity and cooperation with the universe that brings us what we want. In this way, our pain, fear or anger can be a force for making personal, social and planetary changes that further our evolutionary process. We cannot however make this change by hating or rejecting "what is" - whether that be in ourselves, others or society. We need first to accept and love "what is" as a steeping stone towards the new reality we are being guided from within to create. It is important to remember that we can use our powers of manifestation - not only for our selves, but also for the benefit of the whole. Strangely enough, the way to create what we want is to stop being unhappy because we do not have it or fearing that we will not have it, or feeling jealous that others have it, but by doing the opposite - by feeling grateful and happy that we do have it and that it is natural for us to have it. (Concerning parts of us that might undermine creating what we want, refer to the chapter on Ho'oponopono.) There is also another way of creating happiness. We can reduce our attachments and dependencies. The less we require to feel secure, worthy, free, happy and fulfilled, the easier it is to be happy. In addition to letting go of attachments, we can also upgrade them to preferences. We can prefer to have a specific person, job, house, situation, social acceptance etc, but also be able to feel happy even when for some reason these are not manifest in our lives. We do all we can to create what we prefer, but know we will be okay if it does not happen. We love and enjoy what or whom we prefer, but our center or happiness is within. Let us look into this option in greater detail. First let us investigate how an emotion is created. We mentioned this briefly above, but it is important enough to warrant a reminder. We are spirit. For reasons difficult to understand, we have temporality forgotten our true nonphysical spiritual nature - which lacks nothing. Upon birth, we learn to identify with the body and mind as our "self". Our parents and society enforce this perception and once this happens an ego is created which believes it is the body and mind. As a consequence, we feel vulnerable as we realize that the body and mind can be rejected, hurt and even "die". Our fear, which is the result of our amnesia of our true eternal self, causes us to attach ourselves to certain persons, objects and situations in order to create the illusion of security, self-worth and freedom. Each attachment causes a resulting aversion to whatever might obstruct what we are attached to. Our original fears for the body and mind, create attachment and aversion, which in turn create more fears and all other unpleasant emotions, as we fear not getting what we "need" or losing it when we have it We experience anger towards those who might take it from us, jealousy towards those who have it, hate towards those who have taken it and perhaps even guilt and shame for what we need to do to get what we want. All of this because of a simple misconception. For example, we become attached to a certain person as our parent, child, spouse or friend and if all is not well with that being or well between us, we feel unhappy. Our inner state is dependent on what is happening with them and between us. Our negative emotions are based on the idea that we need these fellow beings and that we need them to behave in ways that augment our feelings of security and self-worth. If we are attached to or are dependent on a certain person, we will feel an aversion towards whomever or whatever might put in jeopardy our relationship or control over that person. Others of us become attached to our appearance, how we compare with others, money and material possessions, substances, knowledge and various roles. In all of these cases we will equally feel aversion or rejection towards persons, events or situations that might endanger what we are attached to. Continued in our next issue. by Robert Elias Najemy http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/ebookscb/index.asp ============================================= View video clips of Robert on YouTube. ============================================= You can now view many video clips from Robert's self-knowledge seminar, which has helped many thousands of people. You can now enjoy many parts of it at: http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy If you find these video clips beneficial, you can do the following. 1. 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