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Dear Friends, May this find you all well and happy. This is your personal issue of Clarity. We welcome all of our new members are receiving Clarity for the first time. We would love to hear from you. Express your needs and preferences. Be sure to check out all of the gifts that we have for you on our site. http://www.HolisticHarmony.com If you have not signed up for this ezine, then please asked to be removed with an email to webmaster@holisticharmony.com ============================================= You will find subscription and removal procedures at the end of the email. ============================================= Share this issue with someone who might benefit from it. ============================================= You can find archives of older issues at http://archives.zinester.com/41848 ============================================= Learn how to Help Yourself & Others with «Energy Psychology» with Robert Elias Najemy while enjoying Greece, August 10 to 16th. Learn EFT, TAT, BSFF, WHEE, The Sedona Method, Ho'oponopono as well as Law of Attraction techniques from the "Secret", from the author of 24 books and a Life Coach with 35 years of experience who has worked with over 20,000 people. We are surrounded by olive trees and are a ten minute drive from the sea. Enjoy vegetarian meals some from our gardens. Relax, rejuvenate and learn Energy Psychology for yourself and others. Learn the details at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/seminars ============================================= RIDING OUR EMOTIONS TO FREEDOM Part 6 Those of you who have not read the previous parts can find them at http://www.holisticharmony.com/archives/capsules/a_86.asp ============================================= By Robert Elias Najemy Our roles create our attachments. It is actually the specific roles we identify with that create our attachments and aversions. Each role has its own definitions as to what we need to have or create in order to maintain our illusions of security, self-worth and freedom. I use the word illusions here because what we are attached to and feel aversion to, actually have nothing to do with our real security, self-worth and freedom, all of which are inner constants and can never be in danger and can never be increased or decreased. This is all an illusion of the mind that causes to us identify with these roles and their "prerequisites for happiness", which may differ in various cultures and time periods. As spirit we are neither male, nor female, neither rich nor poor, important nor unimportant, good nor bad. We have no religion, no nationality, no race. We are not inherently parents, or children, siblings or spouses. We have no profession, social standing or anything else that might require us to need anything but our own true spiritual essence in order to feel secure, worthy and free. As actors playing in a theater production, we take on certain roles for the purpose of learning to deal with the material dimension and create here the harmony and beauty that already exist within us as spirit. For such purpose we take on the roles of the child, sibling, friend, spouse and parents. We take on the role of male or female - which, depending on the country and family we incarnate into, offers totally different lessons. We take on professional and social roles for which we have our programmed perceptions as to what is expected of us. We also develop psychological roles such as the victim, the aloof, the interrogator, the intimidator, the savior, the rebel, the know-it-all, the superior one, the inferior one, the holy one, the goody goody and a large variety of other roles - all of which create their own attachments and aversions. Examples of roles and attachments If we forget that our true nature has no gender, and have incarnated as a man in some cultures, we may have the attachment to being more intelligent, able and successful than our soul mate who in this life is playing the role of the female. We may need for our fellow soul to obey us and serve us and feel that it is totally natural for there to be no equality in our relationship. As a female, I may learn to identify my security and self-worth with my external appearance and ability to attract, keep and perhaps control a man. I will perceive other women as a threat and have an aversion towards them. While identified with the role of the Christian, Jew or Moslem, we might have the attachment to being the only group who is has the truth or access to God. In the role of the savior I will evaluate myself in terms of how many people I can help and will feel self-rejection when I am not able to help others and perhaps anger at them when they do not do what I tell them so that I can "create" their happiness for them. In the role of the parent, I will feel anger towards the fellow soul playing the role of "my" child when he or she does not do what I ask. I will also feel guilty when that eternal soul is not well, happy or successful. I will feel unable to be happy, when that other soul is not well. In the role of the child I will have an attachment to be supported, accepted and approved by those fellow souls I have chosen to play the role of my parents. While identified with the role of the child, I will feel pain reject and anger and hate if I do not get what I need from my parents. When I am identified with the role of my particular "profession" on the material level (with or without pay, in or out of the home), I will evaluate my self-worth in terms of my income and achievements in relationship to others and also will give great importance to how I am perceived by those who I am seeking approval from through that role. Those who are playing the role of the victim will actually be attached to being done injustice to and being unhappy. They feel more secure when they are not well and when they can "verify" to themselves that they are the abused and the others are the abusers. We play a combination of roles We all play a combination of these roles creating a unique mixture of attachments, desires, needs and aversions that consequently seriously limit our freedom and happiness. And all of this is an illusion. We are actually none of these roles. Our true self is beyond all these. We are like actors who sign up to play a part in a theater production and then forget who we really are and live our lives actually believing that we are the roles we are playing in that particular play. All of our unpleasant emotions are the result of the fact that we have identified with these temporary roles and their needs, attachments, desires, fears, anxieties, pain, guilt, anger and other emotions. On the other hand we have come to learn and serve through these roles. We have chosen those roles and our role partners in order to continue our evolutionary process. This means that we honor and loving fulfill our roles such as children to certain souls, parents to others and spouses, siblings, friends and coworkers to others. Through these roles we learn to love and respect others and ourselves more purely and unwaveringly. We learn to serve, care for, and forgive. We learn to express our needs and take responsible for our own reality while we allow others to be responsible for theirs. We learn help others without believing we can save them. We learn about the power within us and within others. We become aware of our and others' spiritual nature. We begin to remember who we really are and manifest that without the limitations of the roles. We chose these roles in order to learn, serve and create, not to be limited buy them but to transcend them and discover our true spiritual self. Our problems occur when we depend on these roles for our sense of security and self-worth. That would be like an actor who is playing the role of the king or queen in a theater production to actually believe that he or she is more worthy than the other players and that they should serve or obey him or her simply because of his or her position. Or an actor who is playing the servant in that same play, falsely believing that he or she is less worthy than the others. These are all illusions created by our false identification with these temporary roles. When we forget that we are all spirit temporarily incarnated for the purpose of learning and creating, we then actually believe that we are the parents or children of another soul with whom we have agreed to play these roles. We believe that our self-worth depends on certain parameters we associate with these roles such as how much the others live up to our needs and expectations. We then feel the need to control others so that we have what we need in order to feel secure and happy. When we seek to control others, they in turn resist and we resort to other types of roles such as the victim, the aloof, the interrogator and intimidator in order to "protect" ourselves from the others and get what we want from them. We live in the illusion that we are in danger from the others, with whom we have actually agreed to play these roles in order to learn and grow. What is the solution? 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