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Dear Friends, May this find you all well and happy. This is your personal issue of Clarity. We welcome you al back after a month of absence and we wish you all a wonderful year, with health, happiness, love and growth. We also welcome all of our new members are receiving Clarity for the first time. We would love to hear from you. Express your needs and preferences. Be sure to check out all of the gifts that we have for you on our site. http://www.HolisticHarmony.com If you have not signed up for this ezine, then please asked to be removed with an email to webmaster@holisticharmony.com ============================================= You will find subscription and removal procedures at the end of the email. ============================================= Share this issue with someone who might benefit from it. ============================================= You can find archives of older issues at http://archives.zinester.com/41848 ============================================= Announcing Our Next Holistic Harmony Life Coach Training - Stage I. Starting October 8 th 2008 Find all the details at: http://HolisticHarmony.com/introholisticcoach.asp ============================================ Testimonial by trainees: I would like to thank you for this wonderful journey. I have loved being with you throughout this course. I have learned a lot and your resources are phenomenal. Helena Basso, USA ============================================= The Life Coach Training helped me very much in understanding other people as well as myself much better. Because of the training my communication has improved because I can feel "behind" the words and understand the underlying emotions and reasons. Thus I can give better advice in my job as a coach. Robert's training is ten times worth more than what it costs. He is extremely generous. Take the course! You can only win! Alexandra Bass, Germany ============================================= My Dearest Robert, Attached, please find my Final Exam. I have grown so much through this process. I am truly grateful to you I can't wait to see my Certificate! I recently received all of the materials for Stage Two. Thank you so much for them. I can't wait to start reading and listening. In Gratitude and Joy for 2006, Peggy, USA ============================================= RIDING OUR EMOTIONS TO FREEDOM Part 7 - last part. Those of you who have not read the previous parts can find them at http://www.holisticharmony.com/archives/capsules/a_86.asp ============================================= By Robert Elias Najemy What is the solution? The obvious solution is to remember the truth. Our unpleasant and pleasant emotions can help us to do this. A. We simply need to learn to do what makes us feel happy and learn to avoid what makes us unhappy. Some might consider this as selfish, but we cannot actually do something that makes others feel unhappy while simultaneously feeling happy ourselves at least at a deeper level. It is actually impossible to be happy at the center of or being when our actions are harmful to others. Thus one road to evolution is to do what makes us happy. Also what makes us happy evolves as we mature emotionally, mentally and spiritually. B. When we feel unpleasant emotions, we simply need to ask our selves a few questions. 1. What is my lesson here? Am I feeling unhappy because I need to learn to change what is happening or because I need to learn to be happy regardless of what is happening with that which concerns me. In the case that we feel that our lesson is to change what is happening then we employ the technique mentioned earlier for attracting what we want by feeling gratitude for all that we have and then gratitude that we now have manifested the change we want to add to our reality. In addition we make all necessary actions to manifest what it is that we want. We also need to remember here that a prerequisite to creating what we want is to be happy with and feel gratitude for what we already have - including what we want to change. Rejecting something, someone or some aspect of ourselves is the surest way to energize it and prevent it form changing. In the case that we feel that we also need to learn to let go of our feeling, then we can continue to ask the following questions. 2. What emotions am I feeling here? 3. What exactly is the stimulus that is causing me to feel this way? What is actually happening that is triggering these feelings? The answer could be in past, present or even in the future if I have anxiety or fear concerning something that might happen. The answer might also be some thought that I have. 4. What am I attached to here that is causing me to feel unhappy about this? What do believe must happen or not happen? What do I believe that I must have or not have in order to be happy here? 5. What role (s) am I attached to that is / are creating these beliefs and prerequisites to my happiness. 6. Then we simply remember that we are not the roles we are identifying with that are creating the beliefs, needs and limitations that cause our negative emotions. 7. We remember that we are divine consciousness that has temporarily incarnated into these bodies in order to play these roles and learn and create through them but that our security and self-worth are in no way related to them, just as an actor does not actually die or suffer when the role he or she is playing dictates so in the drama in which he is participating. We give power to external situations to affect us Say for example we are attached to being accepted, loved and respected by a certain person. We give great importance to receiving these positive behaviors from this specific person, because we are identifying with our role in relationship to that person such as parent, child, spouse, sibling or friend. We are not attached to receiving the same support and love from the clerk at the store or a stranger on the street. Our mind accepts not being loved and accepted by these persons. It is an idea in our mind that we must have the love and respect of those specific persons because of our identification with those roles. Of course, we will always prefer to be loved and respected by those we consider important, but at the same time we need to realize that our self-worth and security and our happiness do not depend on this, unless we allow them to. If we are identified with the role of the parent, we cannot relax and be happy when our child is not well or happy with us. We think to ourselves, "I am the parent of this child and am responsible for his reality. If he is not well, successful and happy, then I am a failure. I am not worthy. I feel guilt, shame and self-rejection. I am also and angry with him that he does not listen to me and do what he must to be okay. My self-worth in this society depends on my child." We then feel the need to control that immortal soul who with whom we have agreed to pay the role of our child in this lifetime, and he then reacts and the cycle goes on. We are not parents, we are not children, we have alternated these roles with fellow evolving souls hundreds of times through out our incarnations exchanging positions as to who is the parent, who is the child, who is the male and the female, who our siblings will be. This is an ongoing process of agreements in which we supply each other with stimuli for our mutual growth process. Also we cannot create happiness, health or success for another soul. Neither can they create our happiness or health. We have made these agreements to be together, to learn to love, respect and share, but we cannot create each other's reality. Our Challenge Our challenge is to play these roles with love and respect for the others and ourselves, without loosing awareness of the fact that we are not these roles. Our children have been born and have died thousands of times. They have been our children and siblings and even strangers in other lives. We have been male and female in various lives and our spouses have been in thousands of love relationships, some with us and also many with other souls in other lives. No one belongs to us and we cannot belong to anyone. That is not to be interpreted as an license for free sex, but simply the realization that although I have agreed to have an exclusive love partnership with another soul, that souls does not belong to me and that I can still have a meaningful and happy life if for some reason that soul departs from my life. Also my security and self-worth are inner qualities and have nothing to do what that person's existence or behavior. Following each emotion back to its source Each unpleasant emotion is an opportunity to follow it back to its source, as we discover what the emotion is, what attachment and or belief is creating it, and which role is creating the attachment. Then we remember that we are not this role, but an eternal soul temporarily playing that role for evolutionary purposes. When we remember this, we let go of the role and expand beyond it, allowing ourselves to experience our true self beyond these role, which is a small aspect of our reality. We play many roles simultaneously and we are greater than the sum total of our roles. At the same time are parents, spouses, children, siblings, friends, professionals, religious, political or spiritual beings, males or females etc. What we are cannot be limited to any of these parts. These are all roles we have selected to play for certain periods of time. Each emotion then is an energy line toward the truth. Love and gratitude connect us to the truth that we are in fact one energy, one consciousness and that we actually have all that we need to be happy. Unpleasant emotions energize us to make changes in our lives and in what we have created. They also serve to remind us of our true spiritual nature and freedom from identification with the temporary roles we have chosen to play for our evolutionary process. by Robert Elias Najemy http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/ebookscb/index.asp ============================================= View video clips of Robert on YouTube. ============================================= You can now view many video clips from Robert's self-knowledge seminar, which has helped many thousands of people. You can now enjoy many parts of it at: http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy If you find these video clips beneficial, you can do the following. 1. Go to http://www.youtube.com/robertenajemy and sign up so that you are informed of each new clip as it is uploaded. 2. 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