Dee411 Newsletter
 
May 15, 2006 / Volume 1, Issue 6

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Reclaiming the bonds of sisterhood, one sister at a time!

" ...cast down but not destroyed!" ~2 Corinthians 4:9b (KJV)
 
 
in this issue:

* poll results
* welcome
* recommended reading
* life lessons
* special feature: if I had a daughter
* tribute: for you on mother's day
* quote for success
* contact information
* subscription/unsubscription information
* resources
* this week's poll


last week's poll...


"Forgive and forget."  This advice is rendered, again and again and again. Is it truly possible to forgive without forgetting?  What say you?

Yes Vote    
No  Vote  

Results:

Yes = 0% (0 votes)
No = 100% (2 votes)

I agree. Contrary to popular opinion,  forgiveness is not a favor to the one who has wronged us, but a gift we give ourselves.

Through study, faith, prayer, and practice, I've come to realize that in order to attain healing or peace ... forgetting is a must.  Ah but I'm getting ahead of myself. (See Life Lessons below)


WELCOME


Welcome to the Mother's Day issue of Dee411 Newsletter. Once again I was sidelined by production issues.  This time, it was lack of access to the Internet. Now I see why most publications are usually a month ahead.

Ah well, they say that difficulties are overcome by perseverance and that perseverance builds character. I've been told that I'm quite a character, so it must be working!

To the newcomers, "I'm so glad you've joined us." To the not so newcomers, "I'm gosh darned tickled pink that you're back."

So even though it's two days late and all the festivities are over, it would be entirely remiss of me not to wish those of you who are mothers (and those of you who are fathers who have had to assume that role) a Happy Mother's day.

So please take a moment to enjoy the flowers and my hastily scripted prose below--and the rest of the newsletter too... LOL.

Peace,
Dee


RECOMMENDED READING:

Daddy's Girl
by Linda D. Wattley

Innocence Lost
Leona Tillard is one special little lady. At a young age, her mother mysteriously vanishes, and she's left with her strength and faith to help get her through.  Forced to grow up overnight, Leona becomes the caregiver -- in more ways than one.

Years pass, drama unfolds and Leona searches for the answers to her challenges and struggles. Not understanding her role in life she unknowingly becomes a walking time bomb, getting ready to deal with a truth that cannot be avoided.


LIFE LESSONS:


December 29, 2005

"Endings and New Beginnings"

I attended two funerals this year, (one of which you can read about here) and was privy to three others but not close enough to attend.  Although logically I know it's a path of life, to begin and then to end, my emotional side says that it was five funerals too many.

Funerals signal an end to one phase of our lives and the beginning of another, much like the approaching yearend.  As you assess the past year and plan your goals for the New Year, it's a good time to examine the choices or decisions, if you will, that have held sway in your life.  Ask yourself:

* Did I make good decisions?
* What motivated those decisions?
* When held up against God's standards, do those decisions still apply now?
* If they do, how am I going to improve on them or move to the next level?
* If not, have I the courage to admit that they're pass? or the will to choose differently? 
  read more
 
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D.S. White is the author of Age is Just a Number; (AIJAN). The second edition of AIJAN will be available June 1, 2006. Pre-orders are available at Amazon, ATWC Books,  Barnes and Noble, or The Book ClubHouse ;  (utilize the discount code housecode at checkout to receive an additional 10% off until May 31, 2006.)


QUOTE FOR SUCCESS

One is responsible to life: It is the small beacon in that terrifying darkness from which we come and to which we shall return.

     --James Baldwin, 1962


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FOR YOU ON MOTHER'S DAY

May you bloom in and out of season
as you spread your sweet fragrance
to enhance the lives of your children.

May your love be as gentle as a lily,
as firm as its stalk
and as beautiful as its center
may you be blessed today and always.

SPECIAL MOTHER'S DAY FEATURE:



IF I HAD A DAUGHTER
By Linda D. Wattley


If I had a daughter I would tell her to understand she is a gift from God. I would instill that in her from the day she is born. There would be no competition between us as far as winning daddy's affections or proving I am the better female. I would tell her there was a time it was considered a curse to have a daughter verses having a son. But that time is over because now the female child can be adored, respected and looked upon as intelligent.

I would tell her to always know she is a unique creation of God and God is something or someone deep in her heart. I would teach her to value this invisible presence at all times and to shield it from the temptations of the world. First and foremost she must always understand that boys are totally different than girls in more ways than just physical. I would let her know each year of her life requires a different understanding of the male species.

First of all, the boy is a hunter and he thrives to satisfy his senses. It is human nature for him to desire to devour her body but it does not mean you should surrender it to him, especially when God is your first love. I would teach her to understand it is normal to feel sensations in her distinguished female areas of her body that the male yearns to touch and explore. But understand this is human nature. This urgency is the continuation of the human species. Know precious daughter it is not your responsibility to give your body away for this natural process. The alluring of the eyes of the beholder and his strong desire to have you is no different than what happens with the animals in the jungle. It is called mating to bring forth life.

True, it appears romantic and magical when you read about it or watch it on TV. This is just a smoke screen to sedate you as your soul, spirit and relationship with God is compromised for a moment of lustful fulfillment. Once the sperm is released, things are never the same because God was not in it and He was put on hold and your self-value is dropped. Before you take off those panties, remember you are not alone. God is there and hoping He is chosen over satisfying the lusts of the flesh of another.

Once you have allowed yourself to become naked before the eyes of a male, you risk the chance of being an instrument for sexual pleasure and never seen as a flower again. The boys share their experiences with one another as though their experience was a just reward for all their efforts for cunning you into his bed. Virginity is special for it represents oneness with God. God has something for you when you wait for your mate and trust Him to choose him for you.

There are other things going on in life for God's children beside sweating between sheets. There is much to be done in bringing light into a world where God was not considered instead of sex. The outcome is greed, lust, drugs, sexual abuse and hate. All just because one girl, someone's daughter did not value herself as a child of God. Honor yourself. See the opposite sex as a means to exercise spiritual truth not sexual arousal for the outcome is illegitimate children and a cry for the father to be in their lives. Go in to the world knowing God is with you always. If only someone had told them.

Love is real. It is not based on being wanted and needed. It is based on a silent knowing that together we can make a difference in this world. My daughter, your most important homework assignment is finding out whom or what God is and living it each day of your life.

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Linda D. Wattley is the author of Daddy's Girl  (pictured above) and a principal of

Angel Press Publishing.


RESOURCES
American Art Therapy Association
888-290-0878 info@arttherapy.org

Refers you to the association's chapter in your state, which will provide the names of local therapists.
American Association of Pastoral Counselors
703-385-6967 info@aapc.org

Provides online listing of pastoral counseling centers accredited by the association that offer counseling and psychotherapy services. Also gives phone referrals to pastoral counselors in private practice and other settings.


Copyright © 2006 D.S. White

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Okay, so you've forgiven, and forgotten.  You've let the one who has wronged you know that you've moved on and that the bitterness of unforgiveness no longer has the power to control your life.  Or maybe you haven't made any such grand gesture.  You've just let it go and it's visible in your interaction with the party who has wronged you.

Said party now feels comfortable enough to resume phone calls, emails, and meetings.

Should you allow them to waltz back in?

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