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Saturday, June 28, 2002
Self-Positivity! ezine
(HTML edition)
Your Self-Esteem ezine from Crystal Woods
http://www.self-positivity.com
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Contents
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Welcome
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Welcome back. It's been a busy month for me, as I come up to 3 months in my job, and prepare to be sent off for
some intensive training. I celebrated 12 months with my 'man-friend' (we're both long past teenage years, so boyfriend/
girlfriend seems wildly inappropriate) and finished off my last website project carried over from before the operation.
With what feels like a solid foundation finally beneath me, who knows where things can go from here... |
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What's New from Crystal
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Article: I may not be tall, but...
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I've been working on the site, but with all the commitments I've had this week, haven't yet got it to the stage
where I'm ready to upload it. I'm also about to do 3 weeks intensive training, so it probably wont get done this
month, and in fact, it's going to be a push to get the ezine done before the end of July too. Once that's done,
though, I'm looking forward to settling back down into the routine I've slipped into the last 2 months, getting
things put into place bit by bit over the whole month so it's ready to go at the right time, and I don't need to
spend long periods in front of the computer.
On a personal level, although I've now been together with my 'gentleman friend' for over a year now, in the last
few weeks I've made a few new friendships, and had a few others fade quietly into the background. It constantly
amazes me how life can change around you as your outlook and circumstances do. Don't get me wrong - I certainly
have no animosity to those friends I'm no longer hearing from, and wish them the best, while recognising we no
longer share the same interests and it's become increasingly hard to find things to talk about, as well as awkward,
so moving on is probably for the best. Interestingly, they're both women who talk a lot about how 'lucky' I've
now got it, and just as much about how it could never happen to them.
As for the new friends, as always it's an adventure of discovery as I learn about them, they learn about me, and
we explore the ways we can each add to each other. |
I had a major realisation this month. We all know the phenomenon of "tall poppy syndrome", right?
This is where anyone standing out above the crowd tends to get 'cut down' to the same size as everyone else. Well,
I discovered that it's even more common than I imagined - and worst of all, we can even do it to ourselves.
I've been struggling with my weight now for quite a while. I was put on my first diet before I was 10, and growing
up was on the receiving end of a lot of teasing for being 'short and fat'. Most of you would know the routine.
Diet, exercise, kill yourself trying, then get depressed and resort to the thing you KNOW will give you comfort
- food. This month I had a major realisation. It actually came out of an injury which gave me tendonitis, puzzling
the doctor since I don't wear heels (get real - with my figure I'd look ridiculous!) or any other kind of strappy
'fashion' shoes. That being the usual cause, and obviously not applying in my case, I started wondering exactly
what I was doing that might have brought it on. I ended up noticing that a lot of the time I was working on the
computer, sitting around, or doing whatever, I would be on the edge of my seat and up on tip toes. Being 5'4"
I'm very used to hearing about being short, but I realised how much it was hurting me inside to be put down for
my size - in the vertical dimension, for a change.
That led to another realisation. I know I refuse to be 'average' in a lot of ways. Maybe the fact that I couldn't
be 'big' in height was one of the things leading me to want to be 'big' in another direction. You know when you
have one of those thoughts, and it just sounds so right it's like a piece of the puzzle has clicked into place?
That was my experience.
Of course, there are a few obvious holes in the theory, and I can see them now I've noticed what I'm really thinking.
Big doesn't necessarily mean tall, or even wide. There are a lot of people that are huge in stature without being
either. Kylie Minogue comes to mind as a really obvious example. I started wondering how many other famous people
were similarly driven, making up for short height by being big on achievement. This is my latest project for personal
development - to follow up and find out some names of people who did make it big, while being under 5'4" (my
height). I figure once I've seen that short doesn't have to mean "small" I can let go of my need to
compensate. That's the theory, anyway. ;-)
With me it was my height, compensated for by my width. Are there areas you're not happy with that are really resistant
to change because they're acting as compensation for something you've not yet realised is an issue? Good luck
finding them - and more so, turning them around!
Best Wishes
Crystal |
| Guest Article: Is Belief and Trust Really Necessary
For Achieving Your Goals? |
They say you can achieve it if you believe it. They also say that trust is necessary. But you know what; they also
say that whether you believe it or not, whether you trust it or not, certain laws of the universe will always work
as they are designed to. Your belief and trust is, in regard to these laws, unnecessary.
You could say that there is a certain Current of Life that will run a certain way whether you believe it or not.
When you swim against this current, it is a struggle, and then you definitely do need belief and trust to achieve
your goals. When you swim with the current, when you are in the flow, you become prosperous effortlessly, and belief
and trust is not necessary. At that point, only desire is required, and that desire calls forth the achievement
of your goals, effortlessly.
One definition of trust, in regards to what we are talking about here, is the believing that you will be given
what you ask for. Ask and you shall receive. It is a very simple statement; no need to complicate it. The universe
always brings forth what you hold in your mind. Call it the Law of Attraction or Cause and Effect. You become what
you think about. And what you become, what you are, is a state of being that attracts the conditions that define
that state of being. This becomes your life.
Not believing that you will receive whatever you ask for is lack of trust. Therefore, lack of trust is a belief
that works against you because your thoughts will tend to say to you "you will not get what you desire".
And so shall it be. So lack of trust is definitely something that will bring thoughts that create realities that
are against your desires.
But imagine now that you are moving into trust, becoming more trusting of yourself and the universe as a whole.
Finally, you become fully trusting - and then you discover something magical. That the system works very simply.
You are so you have. You think so you create. It is a simple system. It works whether you trust it or not. When
you don't trust, you come from a state of being attacked and defeated and you think thoughts of lacking. And because
you are so and you think so, the system creates so, exactly (and so you end up with "evidence" that "proves"
that you cannot trust the universe).
But when you are in a state of knowing abundance and thinking that way, the system creates from those same thoughts.
And you end up with your desires being achieved easily. It is a simple input output system. What you put in is
what you get out. So when you fully trust, you start to see the magic - that trust is unnecessary. The system will
always process your input and produce corresponding output exactly. Do you see this? Trust is not necessary, but
if you are distrustful, then trust is necessary - not for the sake of the system, but for your sake.
Lack of trust is a crippler, trust is the crutches to help you learn to walk and heal your cripple, and when you
can walk fully healed, you drop the crutches, you realize that trust is unnecessary, because you see finally that
the system works always. At that point you move from the idea and conviction that the person with the request,
the request itself, and the fulfiller of the request are three separate things, and you finally see and experience
that they are all the same One thing. The observer, the observed and the observation are One.
Let's talk about belief now. This is even simpler. Illusions depend on belief for them to exist, for they are "made
up" by the thoughts held by the believer. But Reality exists whether you believe it or not. It just Is. So
you don't have to believe, as long as you don't believe against. You don't have to believe, as long as you don't
believe against. You don't have to believe that you will get the car of your dreams, as long as you don't believe
you won't. As long as you desire and dream of the car, it will come, but only as long as you don't believe it won't.
Again, belief is unnecessary, unless you hold a contrary thought. If you hold contrary thoughts, belief is necessary
(it is another crutch). Don't forget that a belief is merely a thought that you have over and over. A belief is
simply a thought you have repeatedly.
So what is necessary on all occasions, whether you are talking about belief or trust? Imagination, desire, is the
only necessary ingredient. That is all. Imagination, vision, desire - that is all that must be there. And if it
is clear and unobstructed, even without belief or trust it will work perfectly. Whatever you imagine and desire
is magnetized to you naturally, scientifically, and you don't have to do anything to make these laws work for you.
It is very true that you can have anything if you believe it. But remember, if you are having trouble finding your
faith, simply look instead at the system, and you will see that faith is not even necessary, once you know that
the system has been created by the Creator to work perfectly all the time, regardless. What you put in is what
you get out. Your job, then, is simply not to think against yourself, and as long as you don't think against yourself,
all your desires will naturally manifest. I wish you the highest possible achievements. If you wish to know more
about all this, see http://www.imagesofone.com.
Article written by David Cameron, CEO ImagesOfOne.com, author of Raising Humans and A Happy Pocket Full of Money,
and developer of the Prova LifeGoals Effortless Achiever+ and Prova LifeMap Numerology software. These and titles
such as Think and Grow Rich, As A Man Thinketh, and more are available for download and free trial at http://www.ImagesOfOne.com. |
All the best, hope to catch you next time!
Crystal
http://www.self-positivity.com |
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