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In honor of Cupid's big day it's only
fitting to direct our attention towards this hearts and
flowers kind of holiday with renewed interest in fueling the
flames of passion.
I know what you're thinking ~~ romance
is the last thing on your mind after a hectic day at the
office , and an even more exhausting evening of dealing with
dinner, homework, bath and bed times. By the time your work
weary head hits the pillow the luxury of sleep is all that's
on your mind.
When it comes to brain power, muscle
power, and how efficiently we use our time the theory that,
'if you don't use it you'll lose it', comes into play. that
theory aLso applies to the power of love.
If you don't use your imagination to
keep the fondness flowing, it too will wither and die.
Once Cupid's arrow has struck it's not
as difficult as you think to keep the desire, for one
another, lively and amusing.
Miscommuniation is perhaps the biggest
reason why women seem to suffer headaches on a regular
basis. But taking steps to appreciate the 'big' picture can
help to keep the Tylenol in the medicine cabinet, while
restoring romance between two middle aged love birds.
It's all in the way we look at it
which, at times, does take a lot of creative thinking, on
our part, but can be well worth the effort.
In marriage we vow to love and honor
our husbands. After many years of marriage it is a wife,
wealthy in wisdom, who values the unspoken vow of
deciphering her husband's 'language of love', which we all
know is spoken in a language all their own.
How many times do we women feel
insulted when our husbands lead us into a store like
Victoria's Secret, as they browse through the lingerie
showing us what they's like for their birthday?
I've had the temptation to strangle my
Romeo, right there in the store, with the size 6 negligee
he holds up to my size 14 frame.
But, in his language of love all he's
saying is that he still sees his bride as svelte and sexy as
the day he married her.
I've learned to see it a a compliment
that my honey sees me as Victoria's Secret material when I
know I really belong at Lane Bryant.
While wives see a candle lit dinner for
two as invitingly romantic, her husband's prelude to a
romantic evening can be debatable.
He'll point to the fact that love is on
his mind as he washes dishes, loads the washer and runs the
vacuum across the floor. It takes years of experience for a
wife to appreciate that these chores, done as a token of
love and affection, are practical gestures that speak louder
than words~from his point of view.
If you think about it, doesn't the
sight of a clean kitchen and empty laundry hamper make for
an evening of spontaneous romance?
Sometimes I regard his efforts as
foreplay~~the cleaner the house the more amorous I feel!
Men and women, we define romance in
different ways, but if we ever expect to have and to hold
the whimsy of wedded bliss we need to really listen to the
language of our husband's love. It will serve us well all
the days of our married lives.
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY
ROSES ARE RED VIOLETS ARE BLUE
MAY THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE BE HEARD BY YOU.
Kathy Whirity
kathywhirity@yahoo.com
Bio
Kathy Whirity lives in Chicago where
she shares her life and love with her husband of 28 years,
Bill, their two daughters, Jaime and Katie, and two
rambunctious retrievers, Holly and Hannah.
Kathy is a family life columnist for
two area newspapers. For more of Kathy's writings please
visit her web page~KATHY WHIRITY'S MUSINGS FROM THE HEART
http://www.heartwarmers4u.com/members?kathyw
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